Examiner.com Narcissist Amber Heard

I am reposting the entire article in case anything happens to the link. All the below is taken from an Examiner.com article called Celebrity Narcissists:Was Johnny Depp Falsely Accused of Domestic Violence.

“Actor Johnny Depp, a known philanthropist and reclusive personality type, has been accused by actress Amber Heard of being violent and abusive. She claims to be in fear for her life of the actor known for playing Captain Jack Sparrow in the Disney movie series “Pirates of the Caribbean”, the Mad Hatter in “Alice in Wonderland” and “Alice Through The Looking Glass”, the voice of the lead character in the cartoon movie “Rango”, and other loveable family movie characters.

But here’s the most shocking part of allegations of Domestic Violence having been filed against him by his soon to be ex-wife — she might not be telling the whole truth and nothing but the truth when it comes time to tell her story of what being married to him for just over a year was like.

Here’s why.

Amber Heard might be lying. And if she’s not, she’s liable to be over-inflating her personal accounts about the private life and nature of her famous husband.

Pictures of Heard out partying with friends a day after the alleged abuse happened have surfaced on the internet. Check out the story on News AU coming out of Australia, noting “TMZ reports the photo was deleted yesterday [May 27, 2016], shortly before she appeared in court to secure a restraining order against the actor.”

But CNN reports she still got one issued despite the fact Depp was in another country preparing to play live music at a rock concert no where near her, instead keeping his focus on playing music in front of a live audience (rather than stalking or menacing her).

The reason her story that Johnny is some kind of an abusive maniac sounds suspicious. Heard, a woman suspected of being a Narcopath — meaning a Narcissistic Sociopath — has steadily shown all the red flags and warning signs over the course of her life that she’s both a Somatic Narcissist and a Machiavellian social-climber by nature.

Now, to say so in no way, shape, or form lets Johnny Depp off the hook to responding to the way she treats him with an extreme sense of frustration. It also does not excuse him getting drunk, choosing to avoid her, or not returning her texts and phone calls in a timely manner.

But Heard, the woman who in the past was accused of having an affair with him while they were filming the “Rum Diaries” together, seemed to pay no mind to his morals when he was allegedly cheating on long term girlfriend and baby mama Vanessa Pardis.

She also took little to no time hooking Johnny, emotionally and psychologically. In order to net gain herself a marriage proposal, all the noted swinger had to do was love bomb the actor, then pull herself away physically and emotionally speaking.

Heard and Depp never truly handled rumors of their affair straight on with Pardis or in the public eye. They were accused of fooling around, then Heard cut him off with the promise of taking back up with him if he dumped Pardis is the gist of most behind the scenes rumors.

Once Depp agreed to dump Pardis — a former supermodel turned French actress and occasional voice-over narrator for cartoon characters — he quickly moved his mistress in with him to his various family compounds that he previously shared with the arguably more noteworthy but older celebrity.

Here’s where the problems started — rooted in clandestine love affair tricks, fueled by what many suspect might be drug use and heavy alcohol consumption. Depp, already known for being a heavy, active drinker, took up with a mistress decades his junior, outed his long term life partner, and in trade for what most of his friends presume was romantic attention, married Heard in rapid haste without (sources at TMZ allege) a binding legal document or prenup to protect his net worth as a celebrity father in place.

Now, having waiting until just past their one year anniversary, Heard has come forward claiming she suffered serious domestic abuse all through the relationship. She’s even produced photos of what appears to be an iPhone shaped bruise on her face — alleging Depp smashed it into her face during an argument.

But here’s the deal. She’s also accused the actor of not paying enough attention to her. Citing that he would disappear for days and not return any of her calls or texts as the main thing he did to be abusive, her claims that she’s entitled to a more than healthy share of his net worth and ongoing alimony after barely being together for a year seems a bit… phoney.

If Heard has a Cluster B personality type as expected, there are a few things people with a comorbid mix of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Anti-Social personality disorder do during a divorce by habit. One is to lie about their ex, actively smear campaigning against whatever former love interest rejected them. The other is filing frivolous lawsuits.

In order to meet standard criteria for abuse as grounds for a restraining order to protect an abuse victim, one typically must assert some form of threat of violence. That threat must be coupled with evidence of physical abuse or show that an abusive person has a history of abusive threatening behavior by pattern.

In the case of many victims who try to amicably divorce a Cluster B type prone to pathological lying, rampant egocentrism, holding extreme grudges, enacting vendettas, or who tend to develop revenge obsessions about socially and financially crushing a suitor who rejects them, they meet the same legal and publicity challenges Depp is now himself most likely facing.

Does Amber Heard fear Johnny Depp is going to come banging on her door or windows in the middle of the night demanding he be let in to see her or have his way with her? Unlikely.

Is she likely to fear that Depp will personally walk up to her the next time they cross paths at a red carpet gala or celebrity charity benefit and punch her right in her duck-lipped, stone-faced kisser? Doubtfully.

What is more likely that the actress, angry at Depp for rejecting her calls and romantic advances and frustrated at the amount of attention he was paying to his own children and dying mother, filed for a divorce three days after his mother’s death from what is now known was something related to long term illness.

When Heard stormed out and Johnny never came running, she filed for a divorce. When the press and fans did not take her side and actually pointed out that her timing filing for a divorce was emotional abuse at best, the actress’ temper was likely to have flared.

When TMZ ran a story about how Depp’s family hated Amber and that he was barely allowed to see or spend time with his mom before she died (presumably because of Heard’s jealous, attention-seeking behaviors expecting to be made the center of attention for him at all times), the actress snapped. Within a day, people from her press camp had already been on the phone to TMZ telling the media outlet — confidentially, of course — all about what a wonderful wife and daughter in law she was to her drunk husband and his ailing mother.

Sources from Heard’s press camp immediately left inflammatory remarks in the comments section of any authors who followed up media leads noting the personality disorder pattern similarity. They also were quick to implicitly threaten to reveal all of the Depp family’s deepest, darkest, secrets — including but not limited to her making a claim that private photos of Heard (as step-mother to Depp and Pardis’ two teenage children) exist of the starlet and the teenage boy snuggling (whatever the hell that means in child sexual abuse terms bordering illegal at best but definitely inappropriate to suggest).

Noting that men and women with extreme personality disorders are often the kind who will self harm in order to file false police reports and humiliate their victims, seeing the shocking photo of Heard’s bruised face did not come as a surprise to most victims advocates who have had to deal with high conflict divorce situations while defending and counseling their clients. When Depp’s law team came out and made a statement that they hoped the brief marriage would be over in quick fashion (implying amicably but that Heard was not going to neg gain the windfall of cash she was seeking), her legal team responding by claiming Depp is and remains a dangerous serial abuser, one prone to extreme rages and physical violence.

Depp, having been accused, is likely to be presumed guilty in the court of public opinion. Such is the problem with a Cluster B person targeting a victim for use, social abuse, and eventual discard — because once the relationship is actually over, that’s exactly when the rumors and lies they tell about real abuse victims causes their target to suffer extreme duress after being abused by the real aggressor’s social proxies.

In Depp’s case, either she’s mad he was avoiding her or she’s mad he won’t leave her alone. Since she herself has come forward to publicly claim both in rapid succession, one tall tale or the other is likely to be made up.

In either case, falsifying police reports and lying under oath are crimes of the worst moral sort. If Heard is not truly scared of Johnny, then filing for an order of protection is a frivolous lawsuit — one that not only insults truly frightened abuse victims but also wastes taxpayer money and massive amounts of resources in the court.

If he did shove the phone into her face during an argument, Heard should have filed charges — not a restraining order — if she was truly battered. Because she has means to get away from the star and to avoid him socially by choice, the only real benefit of filing the restraining order with photos claiming she was abused is to smear campaign against him as well as to humiliate him in public.

If Depp did it, he should own it — fast. If he self-advocates and enters an alcohol abuse treatment as well as anger management without being forced, he stands a better chance of a judge ruling in court more favorably against him.

But…

If Depp DIDN’T hit her in the face with the phone — and she harmed herself or falsified the pictures in order to seek revenge on him for dissing her while jockeying for a more lucrative financial settlement during the divorce proceedings… his legal team has an entirely different beast to deal with from both a legal as well as publicity perspective.

If Depp’s legal team is smart, they will have Depp come straight out as the spokesperson for domestic abuse defending males. One in six men are abused by females in the United States alone, statistics show.

Notably, only 1% of humans worldwide have what is known as a Dark Triad or Dark Tetrad personality type like Amber Heard seems to have — but they do exist and the damage men and women do to other people socially, physically, emotionally, financially, and professionally is inordinate. For more information about people with Cluster B personality disorders, follow @NSFM_OhMy on Twitter or check out Out of the Fog — a website devoting to help victims wake up and regain their emotional sanity after enduring traumatizing relationships with people who are abusive by nature such as people with NPD, ASPD, or other personality disorder issues.

In one of their articles titled “Frivolous Lawsuits and Frivolous Litigation“, the Out of the Fog writers note, “Some people with Personality Disorders are drawn towards conflict and will use litigation as a tool to sustain conflict or support a need to feel powerful. Sometimes, just the threat of a lawsuit is enough to control a person and make them ‘fall into line’. Many people and organizations will surrender significant resources or positions to a litigious bully just to avoid the legal fees, inconvenience and risk of a legal proceeding.”

Such may be the exact thing Amber Heard’s legal team is doing in the hopes of gaining a bigger payout from the actor who is arguably most famous for playing a drunken pirate in the “Pirates of the Caribbean” movie series. As the article says,

“If you are on the receiving end of legal proceedings instigated by a person with a Personality Disorder, your primary emotions are probably anxiety or fear. You are probably already familiar with the kinds of accusations that may be leveled against you, and your primary concern is likely to be… what [happens] if the judge [actually] believes it?”

Let other readers know what you think in the comments section below.

Does it always take two to tango or are some people simply twisted and mean spirited enough to lie in court during divorce proceedings, to consider hurting themselves in order to make their victim appear to be abusing them, or to marry a person for reasons like conning them out of their money or blackmailing them in order to steal what would otherwise have been likely to be their targeted person’s estate to leave intact for their children as an inheritance?

Narcissistic Abuse tends to happen in cycles, but people who abuse other people and engage in high conflict divorce tactics to extort money and things like personal property rights from a targeted mark tend to all follow the same Machiavellian legal strategies and smear campaigning “publicity” patterns.

If you (or someone you know) has been victimized by a person who falsifies claims in court, understand that it’s a growing epidemic people with Cluster B personality types already know. Share your Narcissist, Sociopath, Narcopath, Psychopath, or Dark Triad insights and experiences with Depp and his legal team to show both he and other victims of frivolous lawsuits public support in the comments section below.

Or leave a defense of Amber Heard, noting that if she is lying about Depp, her dirty legal tactic to scam a big profit hurts all men and women who actually have been the victims of Domestic Violence and are truly afraid of their current or former life partners more than anyone can possibly know.

Either way, doing research on the red flags and warning signs a person you know or are related to personally might have a Cluster B personality disorder that causes them to behave in socially toxic manners is certainly a topic all human beings can and should discuss. Roughly 6% of the world’s population is thought to have Narcissistic Personality Disorder and another 4% meet the diagnostic criteria for having Anti-Social Personality Disorder, meaning nearly every man, woman, and child on the planet is likely to either be abused or help enable abuse at least one time over the course of their lifetime.

Break the silence by speaking up. Toxic shame keeps most male victims from ever admitting to being abused. Let’s hope Mr. Depp does not continue to be a recluse.”

 

http://www.examiner.com/article/celebrity-narcissists-was-johnny-depp-falsely-accused-of-domestic-violence