Abuse victims, and perhaps especially genuine male victims of abuse, exhibit humility and shame. They are far more reluctant to open up about what has happened to them. They will not insist that they have lots of people who believe them! Real abuse victims, you see, often lack allies. It is the abuser who has them!
Most of us recognize that men experience verbal and emotional abuse at the hands of women, less well accepted or admitted is the fact of physical abuse. In our society, we think of women as the victims and men as the aggressors in physical abuse. The fact that women are more likely to be severely injured in domestic violence adds to the problem of recognizing male abuse. Nevertheless, it happens – frequently. In fact, men are just as likely to be seriously injured when a woman becomes violent because women are more likely to use weapons in the course of an assault. If a male client indicates that his girlfriend or partner assaulted him, believe him. A man will find it harder to discuss his pain with you than will a woman, and even harder to admit to being a victim. It is easier to attribute an injury to a sports mishap or workplace accident than to admit to a doctor or police officer it resulted from domestic violence.
- Our justice system often takes the word of the woman above the word of the man in abuse cases. It is just more believable that the aggressor was the man, not the woman.
- Men are more likely to tolerate the pain of abuse than women. They “grin and bear it” more. And again, many are ashamed to seek medical help for abuse.
- Unless a woman uses a weapon, she usually does not have the strength to inflict injury.?
Why did Johnny wait 24+ hours to seek medical attention?
Deflection: a turning aside or off course : Deviation
Which is what I believe Amber Heard does. She deflects, and she also places the blame for her actions on Johnny Depp. The last statement that was released said their relationship was volatile. We also heard that Johnny’s bodyguards had to physically remove her off of Johnny. She would get physically violent. In other words “We speak about that which we know.”
“He grabbed my hair, he threw a glass at me, he tried to smother me.” It could be just as likely she did those things to him, and turned it back on him.
Abusers will Discourage your relationships with family and friends, especially those family and friends that have a tendency to see through an abusers bullshit, the people who have the balls to mention something isn’t right, OR the people the abuser feels will be a threat. Yet we never saw Amber Heard away from any of her family or friends. Johnny hasn’t seen some of his closest friends in years. Keith Richards, Bill Carter, etc. It’s as if once Amber came into the picture his relationships with his oldest friends stopped.
ABUSERS Prevent you from working. Johnny couldn’t get to set (POTC) because of fighting. It was rumored Amber became such an issue she wasn’t allowed on the set of POTC 5. Johnny wasn’t able to make a press Q&A for Mordecai in Tokyo because he claimed he was attacked by a chupacabra.
Abusers can “Track” all of your time? TIFF – Amber was calling Johnny who was at a downstairs restaurant, constantly. He was getting up to go and check on her the entire time.
Amber said Johnny got furious in Australia and accused her of cheating with Billy Bob Thornton. Yet at the TIFF a huge argument erupted on Sept. 14 when Amber saw Johnny chatting with a young woman. “She stormed over and tried to butt in,” the insider said, and when Johnny kept talking, Amber “looked livid” and pulled her husband away. “She talked to him like a child. Johnny smiled awkwardly and seemed to calm her down, because the next minute they were holding hands again and she was all smiles,” the source added.
Amber released texts, allegedly between herself and Johnny’s assistant. Note the text said Johnny didn’t remember the alleged altercation that happened. (where Amber claimed Johnny kicked her) she said she remembered it in full.
She also led the world to believe Johnny took ecstasy (MDMA) in Australia. Did you know you can get slipped ecstasy unknowingly? Did you know that If you drink alcohol it can have some bizarre effects. You may lose time. Not know what you’ve been doing, who you’ve been doing. It may not matter, but there could be stretches of time you simply cannot remember.
Abusers often deflect, to look as if they are the victim. It’s part of their plan the entire time.
According to the CDC, one in seven men age 18+ in the U.S. has been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in his lifetime. One in 10 men has experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner.
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